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Maybe it was exhaustion or maturity, I'd like to think the latter, but what happened after was unexpected. For one reason or another, probably having something to do with some bad fast food, we never went on a date. Things developed organically, without pressure or rules or timelines, without the need to play an impossible role.
It's about as enjoyable as stopping at that fast-food joint you only eat at because you've been driving for miles and you can't find anything else, so you finally give up and decide to settle on that weird off-brand chain with the broken "open" sign. You go on a bunch of terrible dates and end up going out with someone for six weeks because you're ready to give up and they happen to have a dimly lighted "open" sign, so you're like, "maybe this won't be so bad."But then it is. He wanted me there with him, and I wanted to be by his side.
I know, I know, it makes no sense because online dating is predicated on the act of looking. It's sort of like when you finally do eat that weird fast-food meat, and then three miles later you pass an In-N-Out. A few months into our relationship, I found myself in London, staying with Tom's family, there to attend his mother's funeral.
So as you can see, something that started so light, quickly developed into something far more important than I'd ever imagined.
Given where we are now and all that we've been through in a very short time, it's hard not to fall into old patterns and think about societal pressures and rules and being a serious adult in a serious relationship, because these are all things we're told we should be thinking about.