DEAR JIM: ARE THERE GENERAL GUIDELINES FOR SCREENING PEOPLE THAT PERHAPS I CAN USE IN THE FUTURE TO AVOID THE BAD EXPERIENCE I HAD?You are one of many who have written to me with a similar question.The words put down on paper are a small inkling into the total being of another person. If you find someone approaching you and soon talking about marriage, let it be a red flag that the Holy Spirit is sending up to protect you.Am not saying that you should bring it to a halt, but proceed with GREAT caution.Often people who meet initially over the Internet are guided by their feelings and not their head.There has to be something in common for one to even write to another person.Define what it means The first place to begin in considering this type of interaction is with the couple involved.Each of them needs to define what it means to them.
We’ve got some tips for you to help your chances of getting a response. It’s about you showing interest in them – and doing so via a common interest.
You’ve signed up with an online dating site, and you’ve found someone that you’re interested in.
Instead of sitting back and waiting for them to contact you (no, really, make the first move! First off, you want to make it easy for them to respond.
Secondly, you want to capture their attention, so they actually do respond.
Finally, you want to make yourself seem likable, so they want to write back.