This is a big departure from my past relationships where the main attractions for me tended to be adventure, talent, and substance abuse instead of common values and lifestyles — in other words, I liked to date musicians.My current boyfriend is the only boyfriend I’ve ever had who actually makes me feel like he is looking for a real partner, and respects me on all levels (values, interests, opinions, intelligence, humor).Or are the cultural similarities that occur between people of similar ages important enough to be deal-breakers?Of course, if having children is in your plans and you’re a man, the age of your partner matters.Dating an older woman is quite the rage these days.As a woman over 35, I’ve never felt more desired by men in their late 20s and early 30s than I do now—moreso even than when I was that age. Pay no attention to the ol’ elbow-jabbing, wink-wink idea that cougars* are “more likely to put out and pay for everything.” Meh, that may be a reason a naïve man attempts to score with an older lady, but it’s hardly the reason a smart man enters a relationship with one.“I find it comforting to know that her life goes on when I’m not around,” he said. Plus, I’m talking about outside of the bedroom as well. etc.) But many are not.** She’s choosier, and, unlike the 26-year-olds who think they’ll drop dead if they’re not engaged by 27, married at 28, and prego before 30, she’s looking at life a little differently now.
To be fair, though, there’s a good chance your style muse is Joan Collins. Men in their 50s may not understand what constitutes a date Saturday night at the Legion with his crown green bowling mates, sitting in the corner sipping half a warm lager, anyone? Men in their 50s know what they like in the bedroom In other words, they are set in their ways. Maybe he had to come back from Thailand as he couldn’t get a permit to open a noodle bar with his ‘girlfriend’. Right up until that moment his 30-year-old daughter rings in the middle of dinner and he has to rush off to change her tyre.
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