Still, navigating the world of online dating can definitely be tricky—what kind of message is clever, but not creepy?What the hell are you supposed to say about yourself in your profile? [pagebreak] OUT-OF-TOWN AND OUT OF TOUCH The scenario: “A guy sent me a message saying that he wanted to meet up for a drink, but when I asked when he was free, he said he was ‘going out of town’ for the next two weeks and that we should schedule something after.” — Andrea, 31 The problem..the solution: If you tell a girl you’re “going out of town,” she’s going to assume you’re busy dating other women.However, a lot of people aren’t using online dating to their best benefit.One of my recent female clients had only two pictures up, and both were professional shots. It suggests that this is the best she could possibly look, and, in fact, she might be much less attractive.Also, it conveys that she doesn’t have friends, doesn’t do anything, and isn’t active.It doesn’t necessarily mean any of these things, but that’s the perception it can give.And online dating is all about perception at the beginning.
The ethnicity of who you date is still an important personal preference, but it is less a fundamental of compatibility. Your dates are digging around in your past before they even shake your hand.And that means that some rules which were seen as gospel truth are no longer relevant in today's dating environment.Chances are you’ve heard the lofty remarks about how online dating is somehow inferior, a belief supported by the notion that singles can only really find love when introduced by friends or via some sort of adorably contrived movie meet cute.Etiquette | Texting & Messaging | Safety Growing up, my mother used to teach etiquette classes, so I grew up knowing which fork to use when, how to be chivalrous, and how best to communicate your ideas.While I may have rolled my eyes about this as a teenager (who didn’t?!, like, “a guy told me he was looking for a girlfriend by next year so he’d have someone to split rent with.” Then there was the charmer who told his date about the time he “got wasted, peed and mopped it up with his clothes, and then wore them.” Um, yeah.