— As a dating coach for single women over 40, one of the first questions I ask a client is, “What’s your biggest problem in dating? I recently asked a group of about 300 single, divorced, and widowed women over 40 what their biggest problems were in dating. But when a man rushes sex, women often feel objectified.” I want to know what they’ve tried and what their struggles are. I wanted to see how many struggled with the same issues. They want to be appreciated for more than their bodies.Turns out, there’s lots to love about women of a certain age.Men in their 20s date women over 30 because:“They understand better how to interact in a relationship.”Men in their 40s add:“Women over 30 have stopped putting metal through their lips and tongues which makes it easier to kiss them.Dating in my twenties and thirties made me feel like Odysseus, trying to choose between dashing myself on the ego-bruising rocks of casual romps or a slow death from unrequited lust for garbage humans.There was the ex who brutally dumped me but wouldn't stop emailing me for months, whose presence at dorky work gatherings made me dizzy; the sociopathic film critic whose shoulder I virtually cried on; the go-nowhere first dates; and the great, wide swaths of time spent single, usually pining after some unavailable director or writer who'd relish my attention and nothing else. There were a few things that sent me into a panic about turning 40, but the biggest — looming larger than the golden ring of a book deal or a staff job or, like, finally going back to yoga — was what it meant for me to still be single and actively looking for a partner at that age. If you're not familiar with the exciting world of online dating, sites and apps let you set search parameters that range from location to body type to education and, yes, age range.And the biggest surplus of single men is in rural areas, at 103 for every 100 women.The analysis is based on the most recently available census figures for England and Wales and national survey data.
Others include Barking and Dagenham, Chichester and Bromley – all of which have 113 single women per 100 men.
Women, on the other hand, prefer guys closer to their own age.
In September, a study of 12,000 Finns reaffirmed what prior research had already established. If dudes were really so set on their caveman-era mating habits, wouldn't we see more single ladies over 30 home knitting tea cozies on Friday nights?
Single women looking for a partner should move to the City of London, while men in search of love have the best chance of finding a girlfriend in Knowsley, in Merseyside, according to a major new study released today which maps the hotspots for singletons across the country.
He research, by the Future Foundation think tank, reveals a national "singles gap" when it comes to town and country.